grief

When we are in the middle of a large human experience we have 2 choices, get lost inside our accumulating narrative or to dive down into the depths of it to understand its landscape.

In the realm of human grief, many times we think that our current experience will never end and that it is all that is happening for us.

This is just not scientific is it. Whilst we are thinking about our loss our heart is beating, our finger nails are growing, our bladder is concentrating waste products, our skin is growing and shedding cells. So we are not exclusively and all encompassed by our grief. Our mind tries to trick us into thinking that is all that is happening inside our body.

Well the mind is a big and powerful force it can lead us into cul-de-sacs, or it can lead us to new horizons. Now that sounds a little Pollyanna like doesn't it. But the truth is we can stay captive to our minds collapsing of traumatic or even mildly distressing events or we can mindfully be one with all the experiences that might travel towards us or inside us.

All through our lives there are points where we connect with the lessons or we avoid the lessons. The truth is that whether we connect or avoid, they still keep happening. However when we develop resilience we can spring back more fully. We are not really like a piece of elastic - we are actually infinitely resilient.

If you are in the middle of an intense personal experience and would like some help I have made a meditation cd which you might like to get hold of. It is 20 minutes long and can be accessed by sending an email or posting a request.

love and light
vicki